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I’m a Reluctant Runner

I’m a Reluctant Runner

I grew up thin… I think skinny was the term used most frequently when I was a child.  Like most women, and many men, I focussed on my perceived body-image when I was young and seemed to be frequently apologizing for my size.  Social judgement creates lots of assumptions and myths.  One assumption is that thin must equal fit.  I was, relatively, when I was young.  I was lucky, for a long time.  Then age began to hit me.

Now this is not a rant about growing older: I actually love aging.  I love the personal power I am growing into as I age.  I love the letting go of crap stuff that no longer serves me (that actually never served me, like worrying so much about what I looked like, or how I could make sure everyone liked me), I even love the wrinkles (although I’m struggling a bit with how gravity is being a bit too bossy for my liking).  What I don’t like is how my bones are not healthy.  A bone scan, whilst still in my 40s, showed Osteopenia – bone loss that can lead to Osteoporosis.  This was my wake up call.  That growing into my power piece… well now, I had to act on it.

I had to work on getting fit.  I was suddenly feeling old before my time.  I had seen too many relatives and friends struggling with pain in older age linked to decline in bone density.

The rest of my family are active.  I would choose the sofa over a run any day.  Now, there is still a vocal part of me that would choose the sofa over a run any day… but she doesn’t run the show any more (‘run’ the show… I’m a natural wit!). IMG_5144

I have learnt to…um, let’s say… appreciate running.  I appreciate how it helps me come back to my body… to escape my mind for a little while, and ground myself.  I appreciate the sense of accomplishment it gives me when I have finished.  I appreciate the feeling in my muscles when I have pushed myself a little bit more. I love the feeling as my body gets stronger, and the confidence this gives me. I appreciate the people I have met through running, who are an incredibly supportive tribe… many of who run marathons, but are still so helpful and knowledgeable, and welcoming as I struggled with first a 5km, then a 10km, a half-marathon, and my new goal – a marathon.  I appreciate how running has helped me create a different story about myself.  I am no longer the lazy one, no longer the inactive one.  I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone and my image of myself has changed incredibly.

I am finally beginning to call myself a Runner.  It feels good.  I like this new story I am writing.

What have you done that helps you recognize you are more than your original story?

 

 

Creating Sanctuary

Creating Sanctuary

I love my home. It is a little brick bungalow nestled among larger renovated homes, quite hidden amongst these big, grown up houses. What I love about my home is its littleness. Its ability to wrap snugly around me. Yes, it has too much furniture, and the kitchen is dated and minuscule, and the layout…Continue Reading

How to give yourself a time-out

How to give yourself a time-out

10 steps to give yourself a time-out. If you haven’t remembered to breathe out recently, this is for you: No 1. Get yourself an old VW camper van (ideally pre 1990s), and air-cooled if possible. (Ok, so if that’s not immediately possible, maybe you could find a tree-house, a garden shed, a shepherd’s hut or…Continue Reading

Managing Overwhelm

Managing Overwhelm

I think the most common word I hear in my counselling room is Overwhelm.   For many of us this Holiday period is the season of a particular kind of overwhelm.  An overwhelm made up of trying so hard for everything to be perfect; of feeling financial pressures as we try to please our children,…Continue Reading

Feeling Blah

Feeling Blah

It’s summer in the city, the sun is out the sky is blue, I have just returned from the rest and relaxation of a family vacation, and I tell myself I should be rested, energized and grounded.  But I’m not.  I’m feeling blah. As I tend to live in my head, my reaction is to…Continue Reading

Reclaiming energy and finding motivation

Reclaiming energy and finding motivation

Do you have a hundred ideas before breakfast?  Do you crave more creativity, meaning, community or connection?  Are you finding the motivation and energy you need to move forward with your ideas and desires? Many of us have strong inner critics which influence our actions, or in-actions.  Phrases such as “procrastinate”,”sabotage”; “wasting time”; “unproductive”; “lazy”…Continue Reading

Creating space

Creating space

When I am feeling overwhelmed, stuck and unable to make meaningful decisions about… well, about anything, I realise it is is time to unclutter.  Sometimes that is clearing the piles on my desk, or managing my unruly stationary drawer, but most of the time it is about stopping and creating stillness… to create space ……Continue Reading

Complimentary Career Consultation Session

Complimentary Career Consultation Session

Are you feeling stuck? Are you ready for change? Throughout March, I am offering a free Career Consultation session to give you the opportunity to identify how things can be different.  To book a half hour Complimentary Career Consultation by phone,connect with me here. Together we can explore your next steps.  I look forward to hearing from…Continue Reading

New starts

New starts

There is something about a new year that gives us a sense of possibility…  That feeling that we have a clean slate, a new chapter, another chance. Alongside the sense of hope that a new year brings, there is often a sense of pressure of having to get is right “this time”… So, as we…Continue Reading

Holiday Gift – a Career CheckIn

Holiday Gift – a Career CheckIn

  Looking for a meaningful gift for someone special?     What about a Career CheckIn? 2, one hour Career Counselling sessions, to explore what is working, and what next Special holiday rate of $200 including hst (usual rate $226 including hst, to be booked prior to 31st December 2012) Gift voucher e-mailed to the…Continue Reading

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